Do you know love needs five kinds of languages?

People are yearning for perfect love since ancient times. Plato once talked about an ancient myth: "a long time ago, people had four legs, four hands, with enormous strength. Because of the desecration of the gods, people was cut in half to show their punishment. Since then, the poor person continually attempted to find the lost other half to make up for this deficiency. "But this fascinated love only has a short life. After the passion is over, people go into the reality of marriage, personal real desire, mood and behavior patterns will display the cloven hoof.
The well-known American Marriage consultant Gary • Chapman often hear the complaints of many partners because of work. After 20 years of research, he discovered that everyone needed a "love language", which can be divided into five kinds, namely, positive words, aborative moment, accept gifts, services type of action and physical contact.
Positive words. The deepest needs of human beings is the feeling of being appreciated. For those with low sense of security and with feelings of inferiority, lack a sense of security would be the lack of courage. At this time, if the spouse can give some positive words, including the encouragement, affirmation, and kindness, often will stimulate each other's great potential.
Aborative moment. Do you pay attention before that men and women dining together, the state has a big difference before and after marriage: the former will be full of affectionate attention, while the latter look around. That is regarded as"aborative-moment" and it must be preoccupied conversation, or a dinner meal that only belongs to the two of you, or it can be walking together hand in hand. Activity content is a secondary. The emphasis is taking the time to seize the other's full attention.
Acceptance of gifts. Gift is a concrete symbol of love, is a thing to remind each other "I love you". This is the most easy language of love to learn.
Service-style operations. This refers to do what the spouse wants you to do. Service her ot him, make her or him happy. When in love, services for the other side are voluntary, and even scheming. But after being married many people become lazy, and such a state is of no good.
Physical contact. Body contact is a subtle way to communicate for human feeling, and also a powerful tool for expressing love. Sex life is one of the ways of love words. Holding hands, kiss, hug, stroking also are effective. For some people, physical contact is their main language of love. Lack of it, people will not feel loved.